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DoSo! Coaching & Counseling Coaching international clients to a fulfilling & successful career
How? The objective of DoSo! In my approach I primarily focus on the accompanying partner.

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calendly.com/dklopsowinska/45minpowercoaching Coaching & Counseling is to support international women in the following areas: expatriation coaching, life & career coaching, counseling, workshops. My company assist international companies by helping their expat employees and the

ir partners to feel at home during the critical settling in period and stay in the Netherlands (or elsewhere in the world). Stress resulting from a long lasting feeling of dissatisfaction of the partner can have a negative effect on the whole family and on the expat employee in particular leading to less efficiency at work and in some cases to the early termination of the international assignment, or even break-up of the family. How can my company help? Through the program “Making Holland Your Second Home” DoSo! Coaching & Counseling helps to empower expat women to have a fulfilled life during their stay in the Netherlands as well when returning to their home country. As a result of the program they will experience their live in the Netherlands as an exciting adventure full of opportunities rather than a hurdle that one has to overcome. Better understand the cultural differences between the Dutch culture and her own culture and how the Dutch culture works in practice. The company provides support for international women in the following areas: expatriation coaching, life & career coaching, counseling, workshops.

The most connected person in the room isn't always the best networker.We've been taught that networking is about who you...
28/05/2026

The most connected person in the room isn't always the best networker.

We've been taught that networking is about who you know. So we look at our contact list, decide it isn't impressive enough, and don't reach out at all.

But that's not the real barrier.

The real barrier is the voice that says: "I don't have enough experience yet. Why would anyone want to talk to me?"

Here's what that voice gets wrong: nobody you admire started with a ready-made network either. They built it, one conversation at a time, often before they had it all figured out.

And those conversations? They weren't impressive pitches. They were genuine, curious, low-pressure asks. "How did you get here? What surprised you? What would you do differently?"

That's it. That's networking.

You don't need the right contacts to start. You need the courage to start a conversation with the right people (known or unknown) and the clarity to know why you're reaching out.

The rest builds from there.

What's the conversation you've been putting off starting? 👇

Most networking messages don't fail because of bad intentions.They fail because they feel heavy.👉 Too vague.👉 Too emotio...
18/05/2026

Most networking messages don't fail because of bad intentions.

They fail because they feel heavy.

👉 Too vague.

👉 Too emotional.

👉 Too much asked of a stranger who owes you nothing yet.
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And the frustrating part?

The person sending the message usually has no idea. They think they're being genuine. They think showing too much vulnerability will make them relatable. They think "can I pick your brain?" is a normal ask.

It's not, and here's why.

When you send someone a message they don't know how to respond to, the easiest thing for them to do is nothing.

Not because they're unkind but because you've made it hard for them to say yes AND hard for them to say no.

The fix isn't about being more polished or more impressive. It's about making it easy for the other person.

A message that works does five simple things:

1️⃣ It starts with something real you have in common, not flattery, not a generic opener. Something that makes them think "oh, this person actually looked at my profile."

2️⃣ It tells them why you're reaching out: no mystery, no guessing. Clarity is respectful.

3️⃣ It asks one specific thing you're curious about not "advice on your career" but "how you navigated the move from X to Y."

4️⃣ It makes one clear, light ask: a 15-minute call, a quick reply, a question answered over message. Not a referral. Not a job. Not yet.

5️⃣ And it gives them a graceful way out "totally fine if now isn't a good moment" because people respond to invitations, not obligations.

That last one especially. It sounds like it would reduce your chances. It does the opposite. When people feel like they have a choice, they're far more likely to say yes.
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👉The message in the image above follows this structure exactly. Save it. Adapt it. Send it.👈

More practical frameworks on networking during career transitions coming this week. Follow along. 🔔

Have you ever sent a message and heard nothing back? What did it look like I'd genuinely love to know. 👇

Everything I was taught about networking was about making an impression.Polish your pitch. Know your value. Make them re...
18/05/2026

Everything I was taught about networking was about making an impression.

Polish your pitch. Know your value. Make them remember you.

And while none of that is wrong, it's also not what actually gets people to respond.

Here's what does:

Networking isn't a performance. It's an invitation.

When you're in career transition especially, the rules shift. You're not walking in with a polished story and years of experience in a new field. You're walking in curious, open, and still figuring things out.

And that's completely fine if you approach it right.

A few things that actually move the needle:

👉 Ask for perspective, not jobs. Especially in a first message to someone you barely know. The goal of that conversation isn't to land a role, it's to open a door. The job conversation can come later, once there's real trust.

👉 Be specific. "Can I pick your brain?" is not a question. "I'd love to hear how you navigated the move from X to Y, would you be open to a 15-minute chat?" is. Specific asks feel respectful. Vague ones feel like work.

👉 Give people a graceful exit. End every message with something like: "Totally fine if now isn't a good moment." It sounds counterintuitive, why would you give them a way out? Because it makes people feel safe, not cornered. And people who feel safe? They respond.

👉 Work the numbers, consistently. 10 good messages typically get you 6-7 replies, and 1-3 real conversations. Not every message will land — that's not a failure, that's just how it works. The problem isn't your message. It's sending too few of them.

The shift that changes everything is this:

👉 Stop trying to impress. Start trying to connect. 👈

I'll be sharing more practical insights on networking during career transitions this week. Follow along so you don't miss it. 🔔

What's one networking rule you wish you'd known earlier? Drop it below 👇

Most networking advice treats everyone the same."Just reach out." "Put yourself out there." "Build your network."But her...
14/05/2026

Most networking advice treats everyone the same.

"Just reach out." "Put yourself out there." "Build your network."

But here's what that advice misses: the right networking move depends entirely on where you are in your transition.

Reaching out to a recruiter when you're still figuring out your direction? Probably a waste of time (theirs and yours). Asking someone for a referral before you've even had one real conversation? Too fast, too heavy, and most likely a no.

The goal isn't just to network more. It's to network right for your stage.

Someone actively job hunting needs to be inside target companies talking to people who know how hiring actually works there, not just what the job description says.

Someone still exploring needs to be talking to people who've made pivots, not to get a job, but to understand if the path even makes sense for them.

Someone with no clear direction yet needs inspiring stories, people with non-linear careers who reflect back something useful about their own next step.

Same tool, LinkedIn, a coffee chat, a DM. Completely different approach.

Before your next reach-out, ask yourself: what am I actually trying to find out right now?

That answer will tell you exactly who to talk to and what to say.

I'm sharing more practical frameworks from a career transition networking masterclass this week. Follow along if this is useful. 🔔

Which stage are you in right now?

Drop it in the comments, I'd love to know. 👇

Most people build relationships at work based on who they like, who they sit near, or who they happen to run into at lun...
11/05/2026

Most people build relationships at work based on who they like, who they sit near, or who they happen to run into at lunch.
And then they wonder why, despite having a full calendar and a great reputation with their immediate team, the promotion still isn’t happening.

Here’s what’s actually going on:
Promotion decisions aren’t made by everyone, they’re made by a specific group of people who hold the power, the influence, or both.
And if you’re not intentionally building relationships with those people, you’re essentially invisible in the conversation that decides your future.

This simple 2x2 changes how you think about your network entirely 👇

1️⃣ The top left quadrant: high power, high influence is where your energy should go first. These are the people who can both decide and persuade. Your CEO, CFO, senior directors. Are they on your radar? More importantly, are you on theirs?

2️⃣ The bottom left is often where your manager sits, but not always. Some managers are highly influential, others are more limited to their own team. What matters is this: your manager plays a critical role in your day-to-day experience and can be a strong advocate for you. But if their influence is limited, relying on them alone is not a strategy. You need visibility beyond that relationship.

3️⃣ The top right is the one most people completely miss. Low power but high influence. The politically connected peers, the trusted voices in other departments, the people whose opinions shape what decision-makers think. Underestimate them and you’ve missed some of your most powerful allies.

4️⃣ And the bottom right? These are your colleagues, your friends at work, the people you enjoy spending time with. Keep those relationships warm but be honest with yourself. They won’t be the ones moving your promotion forward.

Map this out for your own organisation. Put names in each quadrant. Then ask yourself, where am I spending my time, and where should I actually be? That gap is your next move.

Which quadrant are you most underinvested in right now? 👇

Let me guess.You've been meaning to reach out to that person on LinkedIn for weeks now.But every time you open that mess...
08/05/2026

Let me guess.

You've been meaning to reach out to that person on LinkedIn for weeks now.

But every time you open that message box, the same thought stops you:

"What do I even have to offer them?"

If that's you, you're not alone. This is the #1 thing that stops people from networking during a career transition. Not the lack of contacts. Not not knowing what to say. Just this quiet but powerful belief that you're not enough yet.

Here's what I want you to hear:

You are not networking to impress anyone.

You're networking to learn. To explore. To have real conversations with people who've walked a path you're curious about. And for that? You don't need a polished story, a fancy title, or years of experience in a new field.

You need curiosity. That's it.

Think about it from the other side: when someone reaches out and says "I really admire the path you've taken and I'd love to hear how you got there" Does that feel like a burden? Or does it feel good?

Most people love being asked about their journey. You're not bothering them. You're giving them an opportunity to reflect and share something they're proud of.

So the next time that voice says "I have nothing to offer", challenge it.

Your curiosity, your fresh perspective, your genuine interest in their story? That is something.

And it's more than enough to start.

I'll be posting more about networking during career transitions Practical strategies, real message examples, and the mindset shifts that actually move the needle.

Follow along so you don't miss it. 🔔

What's the thought that stops YOU from reaching out?

Be honest and drop it in the comments. 👇

If you're switching careers or industries, you've probably felt this:"I can't network yet and I don't even know what I w...
05/05/2026

If you're switching careers or industries, you've probably felt this:

"I can't network yet and I don't even know what I want."

Here's the truth nobody tells you early enough:

You're not supposed to have it figured out yet.

That's literally why you network.

Conversations with the right people aren't the finish line, they're the process. Every chat gives you a piece of the puzzle: a role you hadn't considered, an industry reality that surprises you, or a story that finally makes your own path feel possible.

So instead of waiting for clarity, start building it.

Your first goal: 10 conversations.

Not 10 applications. Not 10 job listings. 10 real conversations.

→ 3 people in roles that genuinely interest you. Ask what their day-to-day actually looks like, not what the job description says

→ 3 people in industries you're curious about. Ask what surprised them once they got inside

→ 4 people with non-linear career paths. Ask what helped them navigate the uncertainty, and what they wish they'd known

You're not pitching yourself in these conversations. You're not asking for a job. You're a researcher collecting stories and every story helps you decide what YOU actually want next.

When you show up, you don't need a polished pitch. You just need:

"I'm in the middle of a career transition and I'm in exploration mode. I'd love to hear about your experience with X and would you be open to a short chat?"

That's enough. Seriously.

The biggest thing stopping most people in career transition isn't the lack of experience, it's waiting for permission to say out loud: "I don't have it all figured out yet, and that's okay."

So here it is. You have permission.

Start messy. Start unclear. Just start.

I'll be posting more about networking during career transitions. All about practical strategies, message templates, and mindset shifts that actually work.

Follow along so you don't miss it. 🔔

When your name comes up for promotion, your manager walks into a room and has to make a case for you, without you there....
20/04/2026

When your name comes up for promotion, your manager walks into a room and has to make a case for you, without you there.

That moment will happen whether you're ready for it or not. The question is whether the person in that room has enough to work with.

Most people leave that entirely to chance. They assume their work speaks for itself, that the right people have noticed, that being good at their job is enough. And then they wonder why someone else got the promotion.

It comes down to evidence. Not vague impressions, specific, concrete proof that you're already operating at the level above. And it goes much deeper than your results.

Swipe through to see what it actually takes.

Which of the three types of evidence is your biggest gap right now? 👇

Most people are waiting for their promotion to happen to them.🫸 Waiting for their manager to bring it up.🫸 Waiting until...
16/04/2026

Most people are waiting for their promotion to happen to them.

🫸 Waiting for their manager to bring it up.

🫸 Waiting until they feel ready.

🫸 Waiting to be noticed.

🫸 Waiting for the right moment, the right project, the right opening.

And the months pass. Sometimes the years.

The uncomfortable part?

While you're waiting, someone else is moving. Not because they're more talented.

Not because they work harder. But because they stopped leaving it to chance.

They got clear on where they wanted to go, made sure the right people could see what they were creating, and had the conversations that felt uncomfortable.

They chose and then they showed up for that choice every single day.

That gap between you and the promotion you want isn't about ability.

👉 It's about intention meeting action. And the moment you decide to stop waiting and start building, everything changes.

The clarity, the relationships, the visibility, the evidence, all of it becomes something you create, not something you hope for.

Your next step is yours to design. But only if you decide it is.

If you're serious about your next internal step, follow along this week. Every post will give you something concrete to think about or act on. 👇

Where are you right now? Still waiting, or actively building?

You can be the hardest working person in the room… and still be invisible to the people deciding your future.Not because...
13/04/2026

You can be the hardest working person in the room… and still be invisible to the people deciding your future.

Not because your work isn’t good enough.
But because doing a great job and being seen as ready for the next level are two completely different games. And most people are only playing one.

I see this all the time with my clients before they start working with me.
They’re talented, committed, delivering strong results… and still stuck.

The issue isn’t performance.
It’s perception. And perception doesn’t build itself.

So what actually makes the difference?

First, visibility.
Not bragging. Not playing politics.
Just making sure the right people see your work, your thinking, your impact.

Second, capability.
Closing the gap between where you are today and what the next level truly requires.
Because yes, there is always a gap.

And third, relationships.
The one most people avoid… and the one that matters most.
This is where trust is built. This is what makes people want to back you when it counts.

Because here’s the part no one tells you clearly enough:
Promotions are not just earned. They are advocated for.

Someone in that room needs to say your name with confidence.
And that only happens when the right people know you, trust you, and believe in where you’re going.

And this is exactly the shift my clients make once we start working together.

So be honest with yourself…
Which of these three are you neglecting right now?

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