02/23/2026
The Scarcity Vacuum
In 2013 I led a small team to make the first unsupported crossing of the Arabian Desert, or Empty Quarter. For 40 days we pulled a cart 600 miles across a hot and dry wasteland. Just 3 times we stopped at wells to fill up with water.
From the outset the problem was always water. 3 people pulling a 1000 pound cart for 10 hours a day in temps of 110 degrees required almost 10 litres each per day, or 2.5 gallons. Well, that's what the nutritionists said. Any less and you will die they said! But no matter how we tweaked the numbers, the cart could not carry more than half that amount.
Two weeks after setting off we arrived at the small oasis of Muqshin and our first water refill. A week later we were entering the high dunes near the Saudi border and the most desperate part of the journey. Not a minute went by of every hour without thinking about water. My mind played a continuous highlights reel of every memory I ever had about water. Images raced through my cortex with a debilitating coolness that was hallucinatory. I pictured taps running, heard toilets flushing, dived deep into oceans, swam across mountain pools, played football topless in afternoon rain storms, all in my mind. We would stop and stare off at some shimmering mirage, and debate whether it was a rock pool or well. We would pray for the Lord to crack open the sand and bring forth cool streams…but nothing. Just the taunt of our blue water containers and our daily ration. I obsessed about water. I worshiped it, craved it, and desperately fell in love with its clear coolness. It had become a God.
I formed a strategy of how I would appreciate it more back in normal life. I promised to never take it for granted again. I carved out time each day to formalise this new will to live. Water would be the most precious thing in my life. Never, ever, ever again would I squander it. But it was not to be. After the first glass, just like that, the mad desire was gone. But the thoughts remained. It puzzled me that I could forget so quickly how desperate I was for it. Where had my zeal gone? I tried to push that same zealous mindset onto my kids, but found them to be, well, normal. Why? You see, that desperate scarcity had created a vacuum, and it was filled by a ravenous desire, a well intended philosophy to make it count. But once the water was back, the vacuum was gone, and so was the craving. The two cannot co-exist. We cannot have access to water or anything and relish it with profound intensity at the same time. I was crushed. But then I realised that I can still be mindful of the construct. I can still sit in the presence of my kids knowing I might not zealously desire them then and there, but still appreciate them. And that is ok.
To cherish something doesn't mean to smother it in affection, but rather to know there was a time when we did not have it and craved it, and might not have it again. But we have it now. And that is enough. Crown Speakers Bureau BigSpeak