06/08/2020
I wanted to share an article a colleague wrote regarding Hoarding.
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I think most of us would agree that there is nothing good about Covid-19. It seems to have tipped the universe onto its side and caused so much of what we knew to become unfamiliar.
Take the experience of going to the grocery store: I have done it for many, many years and, until Covid, found it to be a rather mundane but necessary experience. Now I worry about when to go, what to buy, and how much of it I need. I have watched people leaving stores with baskets full of common items like water; that’s right, water, the stuff that comes out of the faucet. I have witnessed people racing to the personal care sections of the store and have seen rows of empty shelves because people wanted to make sure they have enough.
People are never sure they have enough because every day someone suggests that another thing we count on may not be available, so they rush back to the store to get more eggs, butter, meat, and always toilet paper. In the early days of this pandemic there were long lines, short tempers, and I think we all experienced some form of “better pick up an extra just in case…”
The reason I bring this up is that I think this is an opportune time for us to gain some emotional understanding of hoarding disorder. It would appear that the virus has caused us to develop a disposition for hoarding, and I am hoping it might also help us better understand those who always have too much stuff. Although the word hoarder is often used in the sentence; “I have a lot of stuff but I am not a hoarder”, I think many of us have now had first-hand experience of an emotional component that activates hoarding behavior. Some of us have become that person who worries about having enough and who feels comforted by getting more; the person who forgets what they have bought and buys more “just in case.”
Our need to buy and keep too much stuff in response to this pandemic does not rise to the level of hoarding disorder but can inform us of what goes on inside those who do actually hoard. The need to feel we “have enough” is very human and at times of stress the concept of “enough” becomes a bit tricky. Those who hoard feel they never “have enough” and continually get more “just in case.” Feel familiar? (I have even tried freezing milk since I became worried there might not be enough for my morning coffee.) Then there is the idea of keeping things, just in case. That frozen milk is still in my refrigerator, just in case; and I still have the 17 masks I have been given or bought, even though I mostly wear a bandana.
There is more to be understood about hoarding behavior than there is to be mystified or repulsed by, and I hope that we can all look at our behavior over the last few months and see the very human part of wanting, getting, and keeping too much stuff.
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She is one of the founding members of the Marin County Hoarding Alliance. Please reach out if you want to contact her.
