07/31/2025
If only we could meet that perfect balance of give-and-take more easily❣️💖
The primary masculine objection in a relationship is: “Do not control me.”
The primary feminine objection in a relationship is: “Do not abandon me.”
A person more in their masculine (man or woman) will resist control by either fighting or running away or checking out when faced with any attempt to either outright tell him what to do or manipulate him into doing it.
He does not want to be controlled, because control threatens his experience of freedom. And actually, to avoid being controlled, a person expressing an unconscious form of masculine energy will actually seek to control – either control or be controlled, he believes.
He’s wrong in that attitude, which will only keep him imprisoned, but he doesn’t know it yet.
A person more in their feminine (man or woman) will want to avoid being abandoned.
She’ll want more security in the relationship, agreed committment and assurances that her partner isn’t going anywhere.
She won’t be able to fully relax until she feels the connection is secure. And in any random moment when that once-secure connection suddenly feels uncertain, she will tense and close and act in all kinds of fascinating ways depending on her personality and level of maturity, from inventing problems to connect with her partner through drama to simply wanting to talk about the relationship … all in an effort to avoid the experience of abandonment.
Again, though, her unconscious expressions of feminine energy will often actually repel the experience of connection she so desperately desires … for in her fear of abandonment, she’ll demand her man “show up” which will offend his value of freedom and cause him to resist connection.
~Bryan Reeves
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