Swimmix, Lille Farimagsgade, Copenhagen (2025)

07/09/2022

I wish there was more time

I am fortunate to work with my interest and it has a tendency to grow. Therefor I am closing this page to free up more time and space for the Leadership Coaching I do and my work with Family-Lab Denmark.

A hugh thank you to you for joining me here.

If you are intersted in contacting me for coaching, presentations or educations in relationship competence you can find me here:

https://www.ulrikafaerch.com/en/
https://www.family-lab.dk/

If you want to stay connected you can find me on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ulrika-faerch-5aa71913/

Until I see you again – take care of you and those around you.

Love/
Ulrika

02/09/2022

We need connection now maybe more than ever💞

How do we grow our connection to ourselves?
- By growing our self-awareness and developing a healthy self-esteem.

Introspection, therapy, coaching or journaling can be ways to reach that growth. In my oppinion probably the best investment for the modern human being and something I wish all groups who directly work with humans would get from their employer.

What do you think?

"Our connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves." Brene Brown

01/09/2022

He forgets to wait!😳

Did you see last weeks post? The little boy and mom playing and the boy jumping into the water from the mat to mom on the count of three.

The same boy just minutes later. When a swim friend steps by he forgets all about waiting to count before jumping in.

They live in the present moment our little children and when someone might take MY MAT or MY TURN (he is a toddler) he forgets everything but taking his turn - quickly - on his favorite activity.

This clip clearly shows the nature of a child and why they always are in need of adult supervision.

31/08/2022

❤️ Bring new happiness and a deeper level of understanding with the gift of swim. 🫧

Swimming together can reduce stress and increase serotonin and oxytocin (the “love hormone,” essential for building strong bonds).

With the Happy Babies Swim book as your guide you can learn more about yourself and your baby, build a strong emotional connection and a healthy relationship right from the start.

❤️💦🫧

Link 👇 and in bio
https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Babies-Swim-Creating-Relationships-ebook/dp/B07PP7RYR3/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1TO7NJUWKOWDO&keywords=happy+babies+swim+book&qid=1659901874&sprefix=happy+babies+swim+book%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-3

28/08/2022

💝 Make a big splash in your baby's and your life 💦

Start today!

A five step program for parents with babies from 0 to 24 months. It's a guide into a holistic self-led journey for parents. With this program and through the practice parents will not only discover and learn more about their baby but also about themselves.

Growing stronger together through the gift of swim.

The program is also used by teachers in swim schools.⭐️

Jump in you too!

Link 👇 and in bio
https://learn.swimmix.com/

26/08/2022

Jumping into the weekend!

The nature of us humans right from start is to challenge ourselves and others.
He is ready to move beyond the 1, 2, 3 but maybe Mom is not? So he finds his way to challenge both himself and his Mom...
Watch how he gets the idea and jumps away from her the second time and then the third time takes it even further.
Love it?

Question now is now how will they proceed?
1. Understanding his will and need to further develop his competence?
2. Control him and his behaviour?

From a developmental and relationship perspective I would look for how to accomodate and meet the new level of competence he is stretching towards.

Next week I'll share a fun thing that happened when we filmed this. A situation that puts a light on how .

25/08/2022

Relationship means contact, connection, communion.

If focus is solely on perfomance, goals and outcome rather than the relationship first. It will have a negativ effect on outcome and experience.
How ofte have we not heard about terrible experiences from swimming. Often this is due to lack of understanding of the impact of relationships in education or just poor relationship skills from the adult.
We would all greatly benefit from developing our relationship competence.

"Action has meaning only in relationship;
without understanding relationship,
action on any level will only breed conflict."

22/08/2022

Swim into H A P P Y

Focus on these cues, create the mindset for you and your baby to enjoy the gift of swim and working towards a stronger relationship!

🫧 HELP guide your child in the water, and remember the importance of self-exploration!

🫧 ACTIVITIES, like swim, need routine and repetition for a young baby’s mind to grow.

🫧 PRESENT parents and caregivers, who are in-tune, develop deep bonds and trust with their babies.

🫧 PLAYING is key! Give and take time to make games out of activities in the water and have fun together.

🫧 YOU are the leader! Your baby is watching you, so be emotionally intelligent to guide your baby, while also ensuring a safe and positive environment for you both to learn in together.

21/08/2022

More well-being for all 🫧💞
Broaden and deepen your emotional vocabulary

We are much better of in life if we have a vocabulary that is as expansive as life experience.

I grew up with very little spoken emotional language and as a swimmer I was also muted for hours under water.
Books and movies gave me the words that spoke to my inner life. But I have often felt awkward and in lack of words when I wanted to express my own experiences.

It was a different time when I grew up, generally it was little attention and interest in emotions and children's emotional experience. Controlling and suppressing was more the norm.

Today it's different, we now know that emotional intelligence affects our well-being. We are emotional relational beings! The only thing we need to do is to practice and expand our skills.

The emotional relationship between you and your baby gives you wonderful everyday opportunities to expand your emotional vocabulary while you give your baby more words to what happens inside him/her.

I just heard that in general adults have a limited vocabulary with an average of three (!) words;

😄Happy
😡Mad
😭Sad

Play with it! Describe your latest swim with your baby using words that express the emotional experience in a new way for you.

Share here or journal it - let it grow and see what happens.

19/08/2022

🫧 The fountain of youth🧜

Water stimulates us, it challenges us. It resists us even as it buoys us up. It allows us to move in graceful, new ways and helps develop our sense of balance.
Now research says that swimming might even keep us younger.

Lately I have began to enjoy cold showers and cold dips and even swims in the ocean. I don't know what happened how I who never liked the cold suddenly crave it. It invigorates me.

What is and where do you find your fountain of youth?

Have a lovely weekend!

18/08/2022

When is it ok to say no?

Most want to be nice and many adults today might find it difficult to say no to their children from time to time. But to say no is important. But we need to sure that we are not saying no to needs.

In general we can say “no” to things a child desires. They will get important experiences where they learn about their own temper and about aspects of life.
They will express disappointment but, given some time and understanding, they will land in calm again.

But if we say no to a child's basic needs we will not reach calm. Sometimes it might look like calm at first, but later show up as negative symptoms.
Examples of symptoms might be:
Anxiety, stomach pain, headaches, engage in violent or self destructive behavior.

Children don't know the difference between needs and desires. They feel their desires as strongly as their needs.

Needs and desires in short:
Needs refers to our individual basic necessities required to survive and thrive.
Examples:
Sleep
Nutrition
Care and attention
Rest and activity
Emotional and physical security

These are things your child (and you) must have.

Desires are things we like to have.
Examples are endless:
A toy
A shoe from a special brand
Ice-creme and candy
Eat on the floor
Stay up late
The newest mobile phone

It is something you wish to have or do.

In the pool or water activity - what are needs and what are desires?
What are your needs?
What are the child's nee

17/08/2022

I don't believe it is possible to always be happy

I don't even think it is something to thrive to achieve. What I do believe is that it is a byproduct of living an authentic life, where you are loved and love. A life where you can develop your skills and contribute to the whole and feel valued and also grateful.

Growing up with parents that in general are happy, has a strong impact on the children as well as the adults. It's inspiring and uplifting.
To be the captain and have the rudder in our own lifes and enjoy the journey will give our children room to grow and inspiration to how to navigate in life.

"The greatest gift parents can give their children is their own happiness."
- Thich Nhat Hanh

16/08/2022

A well-packed swim bag 🐠

From the Happy Babies Swim Book: A list of things that can be good when going to swim.

🧜‍♀️Swimwear – There is special swimwear for babies. Choose one that has lining and that is close fitting to your baby’s thighs and tummy. Some swim schools require a swim diaper under the swim pants and some swimsuits have built-in diapers, as well.
🧜‍♀️Clothes for your child, that is easy to take off and put on again.
🧜‍♀️ Your child’s pacifier, if used.
🧜‍♀️ Towels for both of you.
🧜‍♀️Swimming goggles for you if you like.
🧜‍♀️Perhaps oil or lotion for the child's skin after the swim.
🧜‍♀️Food and drink for your child.
🧜‍♀️Something to drink for yourself. It is especially important if you are breastfeeding. I recommend water.
🧜‍♀️Diapers. Bring diapers for after swim and also diapers that can get wet in the pool (these are made special).

Is there anything missing you would like to ad?
Any favourite brands? Please share your items and links in the comments below 👇

15/08/2022

🤩 What beats this feeling?
The wonderful feeling of "I can do it!"

To grow into more autonomy is a joined journey. To support your child's learning, to see when they stretch out for more independence.
As parents it's often a waltz with many emotions involved. What we want to show and our children to feel is that we trust them, trust them in learning and in life.

They keep us on our toes. We stay present, ready, being there if they need us or not. We enjoy with them - every step is a new victory.

They bring in so much wonderful wonder into our world.

14/08/2022

Need to grow up healthy and strong

What your child needs to experience from you throughout childhood.

❤️ To be responsible for your childs and your own well-being.

❤️ To feel protected. And that you will also protect yourself.

❤️ To be guided by you in a comfortable way and that you make it safe for your child to explore and learn about everything she/he needs and feel comfortable.

❤️ To feel acknowledged and respected and that you respond to his/her experiences and feelings.

❤️ That you are curious about who your child is, his/her interests, talents and gifts. Every day. And that you show up authenticly and share your interests, talents and gifts.

❤️ That your child is vaulable just because he/she is not because of accomplishments, achievments or by pleasing you or others. Your childs role is, like yours, to be him-/herself and to live life well self and together with others.

❤️That you always do your best. Still you will make mistakes. It's ok what your child then needs to experience is that you take full responsibility for the mistakes you make when you notice them.

12/08/2022

❤️ Bring new happiness and a deeper level of understanding with the gift of swim. 🫧

Swimming together can reduce stress and increase serotonin and oxytocin (the “love hormone,” essential for building strong bonds).

With the Happy Babies Swim book as your guide you can learn more about yourself and your baby, build a strong emotional connection and a healthy relationship right from the start.

❤️💦🫧

You can find the book on Amazon 📘

09/08/2022

A baby's laughter is the best sound ever

Peek-a-boo! Playing with our greatest fear.
She covers her face with her hands and seconds later when she opens them she says;
-”Peek-a-boo!”
The little baby’s face lights up in a big smile towards her Mom.
Mom continue the play together with her little daughter. She shifts timing and tone. The little one expresses the anticipation and with increasing joy she is feeling it with her whole body. They are both, Mom and baby feeling and sharing it.

"Peek-a-boo" is one of many ingenious games children and parents play together.
It becomes interesting to play it just when, what we often refer to as, 'separation anxiety' appears.

With the "Peek-a-boo" play they are playing with life's biggest fear – abandonment. And also learning object constancy. An important milestone that makes it possible to deal with separation.

We have been given the ability to to play in order for us to learn to deal with the difficult.
With their parent engaging in the play they can adjust and regulate it to keep it exciting and manageable.

The child experiences the joy of being rediscovered over and over again.
An ingenious emotional work-out, where the parents also can be soaked in positive emotions while loosing themselves in the now and play with their child.

What are your favorite games in the water that bring joy and laughter to you and your baby?

08/08/2022

We are connected 💞

Learning, development and growth is not always easy and joyous. Sometimes it is even painful, like when we are made aware of strategies or actions that we have that are not beneficial to self, others or relationships.

I have experienced this many times throughout my life. When I coach parents and leaders this happens too. If it didn't I wouldn't be doing my job.

What matters and makes the differerence is how we are met in these situations. If we are met with judgement or acusations we might feel shame and disconnect or defend ourselves and staying stuck.
If we instead are met with compassion and understanding we will easier stay connected and b able toe explore and find better ways, resulting in new experinces results and growth.

We always have a choice in how to show up in relationship to ourselves, our loved ones and fellow beings.

"We never have anything to do
with another human being without
holding some portion of his life in our hands."
- Knud Ejler Løgstrup

Knud Ejler Løgstrup (1905-1981) was a Professor of Ethics and Philosophy of Religion at the University of Aarhus in Denmark. He is probably the most important Danish philosopher since Kierkegaard.

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