08/28/2026
Ask Chat:
Based on everything you know about me from all of our conversations, tell me which ONE Disney or Pixar character I am at my core. Not my favorite. Not the obvious answer. The character whose personality, strengths, flaws, motivations, relationships, and way of moving through life most closely mirror mine. Tell me what you see that I may not see myself. Be honest enough that I might feel a little called out. Choose only ONE character and make me believe you.
Here is mine: 🩷
You are Tiana!
Not because you’re hardworking. That’s the easy answer.
It’s because the thing driving Tiana is the same thing I see underneath almost everything you do:
You want to build a life that feels secure, successful, beautiful, and yours—and you have a hard time trusting that it will happen unless you personally make it happen.
That last part is the giveaway.
You are a doer. When something isn’t working, you don’t sit with it very long. You research it. Fix it. Rewrite it. Move it. Refinish it. Appeal it. Market it. Water it differently. Find a better resort. Make a better business plan. 😂
Your instinct is almost always:
“Okay. What can I DO about this?”
That is so Tiana.
And it has served you incredibly well. You’ve built competence in completely different worlds. You can talk through a real-estate transaction and then turn around and plan someone’s dream vacation. You care about getting details right because other people are depending on you.
But here comes the part where I call you out.
You sometimes confuse being needed with being valuable.
Tiana does this too.
You seem most comfortable when you’re solving something for somebody. A client needs help? You’re on it. Something at home isn’t right? You’re figuring it out. Someone you love needs something? You’re handling it.
You don’t strike me as someone who particularly enjoys feeling helpless.
So you compensate with competence.
And because you’re good at it, people probably reinforce the pattern. Mandy will figure it out. Mandy knows who to call. Mandy will research it. Mandy will handle it.
And most of the time?
You do.
The danger is that capable people can accidentally build lives where everyone gets the benefit of their capability except them.
That’s Tiana’s flaw.
She isn’t selfish enough.
Not selfish in the ugly sense. Selfish enough to occasionally say, I don’t have to earn this moment. I don’t have to turn this into something productive. I don’t have to solve anything right now.
There’s another similarity I don’t think is obvious.
You’re more sentimental than the version of you people first meet.
On the surface, there’s a very practical, funny, slightly sassy woman who likes things done correctly and isn’t afraid to say, Nope. That’s not right. Try again. 😂
Underneath that, though, you attach a lot of meaning to memories.
That’s why travel isn’t really just travel to you.
I’ve noticed the things that resonate most with you aren’t simply beautiful resorts or expensive vacations. It’s parents taking their kids while they’re still little. Going to Disney at different stages of life. Family trips people will talk about years later. Experiences people should have while they still can.
You understand something that Tiana eventually has to learn:
A successful life and a meaningful life aren’t automatically the same thing.
You want both.
And I think there’s a quiet tension in you between them.
You have this entrepreneurial part constantly whispering:
More. Grow it. Make the business bigger. Get better at this. Make more money. Fix that. What’s next?
But there’s another part of you that really just wants the people you love around you, a beautiful place to live, Bash nearby, trips on the calendar, enough money that you don’t have to worry, and the freedom to actually enjoy the life you’ve worked so damn hard to create.
That’s the Tiana in you.
And here’s what I think you may not see about yourself:
Your greatest strength and your biggest flaw are actually the same trait.
You believe effort changes outcomes.
Usually, you’re right.
It’s why you don’t stay stuck very long. It’s why you’re resourceful. It’s why you’re entrepreneurial. It’s why people trust you.
But it can also make you believe that when something isn’t going right, there must be something else you should be doing.
Sometimes there isn’t.
Sometimes a plant dies. A deal falls apart. A plan changes. Someone disappoints you. A business grows slower than you’d like. Life refuses to cooperate.
And your instinct is probably:
“Okay, but what can I change?”
Tiana had to learn that you can work incredibly hard and still not control everything.
More importantly, she had to learn that the dream wasn’t really the restaurant.
The restaurant represented independence. Security. Pride. Proof that she’d made something of herself.
But the life she wanted was bigger than the goal she’d been chasing.
I suspect some of your goals work the same way.
The income number isn’t only about money.
The successful travel business isn’t only about selling vacations.
The house projects aren’t only about making things prettier.
A lot of what you’re building seems to point toward the same underlying desire:
Freedom.
Freedom to choose what you do with your time.
Freedom to travel.
Freedom to take care of the people you love.
Freedom to say yes without worrying about the cost.
Freedom to build a life that doesn’t require escaping from it.
And THAT is why I wouldn’t pick Cinderella, Belle, Rapunzel, Joy, Dory, or one of the more obvious Disney women for you.
You’re Tiana.
Driven. Practical. Loving. Particular. Funny. Independent. A little stubborn. Extremely capable. Occasionally convinced that if you’d just work a little harder, everything would finally be exactly right.
And underneath all of it, much softer than you probably let everybody see.
Your next chapter probably isn’t about learning how to work harder.
You’ve already mastered that.
It’s learning that you are allowed to enjoy what you’ve built before you’ve finished building it.
That’s your Tiana lesson.
And yeah…
I think that one probably called you out a little. ❤️
