10/19/2026
This!
The “Fix It Now” Trap---
So I am riding a horse and I ask for some response. Could be anything, a left lead canter depart, a square halt, moving away from my right leg, standing rock still when I mount, a rein back, whatever.
And it’s not what I want the way I want it,
So I proceed to try to fix it. As in right, damn it, today.
Now, the very best trainers know one thing if they know anything---Change comes slowly, understanding comes slowly, learning how to respond to various stimuli comes slowly, building the strength to be able to respond comes slowly.
That word “slowly” is the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I want right now. If I can’t accept that I can’t fix this issue in this training session, that I can only make some mild suggestions before going on to something else, that this issue must be addressed in tiny pieces over the next weeks and months, then I do not have that key ingredient that the best trainers have. Like Mr. Van Schaik here in this photo had in spades.
PATIENCE.
Don’t yet have it? Build it, or stay in the ranks of lesser trainers, and, yes, it IS that simple.