Sex and Happiness

04/22/2025

💫 In Case You Missed It: Our Radio Episode Is Now Live to Rewatch! 💫

Michael and I were recently featured on Come Back to Love® Radio with the radiant Robyn Vogel- and the full episode is now available to listen to at your leisure!

We shared the heart and soul of our work: what it means to build relationships rooted in conscious communication, emotional safety, sacred s3xual!ty, and deep presence.

💞 “Couples are an Endangered Species” and this conversation is our call to come back to love.

Together, we danced with topics like:
✨ Conscious int!macy & sacred connection as a portal to healing
✨ Cultivating emotional safety, trust & turn-on
✨ Keeping passion alive through truth and tenderness
✨ The real tools we use to help couples (and singles) experience extraordinary love

Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode will spark something new in you.

Truly, what a perfect time to COME BACK TO LOVE.

🎧 You can now tune in on YouTube, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyXt78K8jxs

04/21/2025

For their 26th anniversary, Amanda and Gary joined us for the Extraordinary Lovers Experience in Phoenix- and what they walked away with was more than tools…

It was a full-body, soul-deep transformation.

💬 "It was a deeply cathartic experience witnessing the universal patterns of struggles with practical solutions being demonstrated with utter vulnerability by Laurie and Michael and practiced by all the couples in attendance.

In typical Laurie Handlers fashion, add to that tenderness the Dionysian aspects of joy and pleasure and you come away with three new R’s. Refreshed, renewed, and revitalized.

XOXO Amanda and Gary"

Ready for your own renewal? Join us in Denver, May 1–4.

💞 Couples and singles welcome.

🔗 https://lauriehandlers.com/ele_couples/denver_2025

Extraordinary Lovers

04/18/2025

I was recently interviewed by the brilliant Dr. Dawn Dalili for a powerful new series called The Desire Dialogues- and I can’t wait for you to experience it.

This free online event brings together 18 voices to explore how to rekindle your inner fire, from hormonal health and communication to embodied connection and emotional healing.

💋 In my interview, I’ll be sharing my lens on cultivating energy, deepening presence, and reawakening your s3x-and-happiness.

The series begins on April 21st and runs through April 26th, with three nourishing conversations released each day.

✨ Topics include:
• Health & Hormones
• Relationships & Communication
• Stepping Into Your Bliss
• Healing Past Challenges

If you’re feeling the call to reconnect with yourself—body, heart, and soul—this is your invitation.

🎧 Reserve your spot here: https://dawndalili.com/desire-dialogues/

Dawn Dalili ND

04/17/2025

This morning, Michael (Extraordinary Lovers) and I would love for you to listen in on a very special episode of Come Back to Love® Radio with the luminous Robyn Vogel.

We open up about the truth of long-term passion, the power of sacred s3xuality, and why emotional safety is the true foundation of intimacy.

If you’ve ever craved more from your relationships (more presence, more truth, more connection), this episode is for you.

“Couples are an Endangered Species.”
This is our call to remember what love can be.

🎙 Airs today at 1am & 1pm ET
🎧 https://dreamvisions7radio.com/come-back-to-love/
✨ Available on Alexa, iHeartRadio, and Pandora- perfect for your morning walk, mid-day reset, or solo drive.

And if this episode sparks something in you, then join us in Denver this May 1–4 for our Extraordinary Lovers Experience.

Singles and couples are welcome; we’re diving even deeper into everything we talk about on air.

04/16/2025

Happening in less than an hour! ⏳

Coaches, healers, and heart-led entrepreneurs-

If you’re ready to bring pl3asure and ease into the way you do business, just like you do in life… you’re going to love what my dear friend
Jenny Glick

is sharing today.

Jenny is a seasoned s3x.therapist and wildly successful entrepreneur who’s spent over 20 years building businesses that prioritize pleasure first.

She’s hosting a free event today—and it’s designed for soulful professionals who are ready to grow their impact without the burnout.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re pushing, striving, or clenching to make your business work… it’s time to exhale. 🧘🏽‍♀️

📅 It starts at 9am PT / 12pm ET—so don’t wait
✨ https://allconnected.agency/calm-af-entrepreneur

A  FREE 90-minute, refreshing workshop all about how to feel steady self-allegience as you step into self-sovereignty, and expand the imprint of the work you are meant to do in this wild world.Hint: meaningful “work” doesn’t have to be so hard.

04/10/2025

Until it hit me, I didn’t know anything about perimenopause either.

And like so many others, I was left to figure it out on my own.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

💫 Your body will change.
💫 Your desire will shift.
💫 It won’t last forever.

The discomfort often comes from resisting what’s happening.
But when I stopped fighting it and chose to see it as the path to wisdom, everything began to calm down.

There is life after perimenopause.

I’m living proof!

🌿 Supplements, support, education- there are tools out there.
But the most powerful one might just be our mindsets.

Huge thank you to Whitney McDuff Consulting for having me on her Speak Up, Stand Out, Change Lives podcast. I’m so grateful for this conversation. 💖

🎙️ To hear the full episode, visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-happiness-and-breaking-taboos-a-conversation/id1753085848?i=1000686813951 the link in my bio or search for Speak Up, Stand Out, Change Lives on Apple Podcasts.

04/09/2025

"They said desire fades.
That pleasure has an expiration date.
That aging means becoming invisible.

They were wrong."

If anything, aging has brought me more joy 😌, more confidence 💃, and deeper connection 💞 than I ever imagined.

S3x-&-Happiness: It Gets Better with Age isn’t just a book—it’s a reclamation.
Of radiance. Of sensuality.
Of your right to feel alive, magnetic, and deeply connected—at every age.

Inside, I share seven essential practices that keep your energy vibrant 🌟, your spirit awake 🕊️, and your body in touch with joy 🌺.

You don’t need to be in a relationship.
You only need a willingness to believe that your best years could be right now.

📖 Order your copy at https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-books

04/02/2025

Whether you're in a relationship or deepening your connection to yourself, Michael and I have created powerful experiences to help you expand, reignite, and fully embody the kind of intimacy you know is possible.

You can transform your relationship into something better than you’ve ever dreamed of—
and we’re here to show you how.

💞 Join us for the next Extraordinary Lovers Experience
May 1–4 | Denver, Colorado

This four-day immersive is for couples and singles ready to explore deeper connection, passion, and conscious communication.

Whether you arrive with a partner or come solo, you’ll leave with powerful tools to live (and love) more fully.

Discover what it means to love yourself fiercely and create extraordinary relationships from the inside out.

And this is only the beginning.

More extraordinary experiences are unfolding this summer and fall.

✨ See my full list of events at https://lauriehandlers.com/extraordinary-lovers-experience

Come with your partner or come as you are.

Either way, extraordinary love starts here.

You won’t just learn about extraordinary love, you’ll learn to live it.

Extraordinary Lovers

04/01/2025

There’s no such thing as soul-shaking intimacy built on silence. 🤫

You can’t wait for your truth to be perfectly timed, perfectly received, or perfectly wrapped in someone else’s approval. That’s not connection—that’s performance.

The most magnetic thing you can do in love?

✨Speak the words that feel real, not rehearsed. ✨

Even if they tremble on the way out.
Even if they land with a thud.
Even if they shift the shape of your relationship forever.

Your fear of being too much is mirrored in their fear of being too honest.
But someone has to go first.

Let it be you. 💗

Are you ready to practice this kind of truth in real-time?

If so, then join our next 💞 Extraordinary Lovers Experience in Denver on May 1–4.

Discover what it means to love yourself fiercely and create extraordinary relationships—from the inside out, starting with you.

🔗 www.lauriehandlers.com/ele_couples/denver_2025

03/28/2025

Couples struggle to communicate their needs—not because they don’t love each other, but because they were never shown how. 🫨

There’s no blueprint. No role models. No songs 🎼 or movies 🎞️ teaching us how to express our needs fearlessly and actually be heard.

That’s why in my work, I don’t just talk about communication—I demonstrate it. Michael and I show couples how to bring up one thing at a time, clear the air, and create agreements that actually last.

I’m so thrilled to have been featured on Whitney McDuff’s Speak Up, Stand Out, and Change Lives podcast! Getting to share the work I love is truly one of the greatest joys of my life.

🎙️ Check out the episode and please leave a review – I’d love to hear what you think! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-happiness-and-breaking-taboos-a-conversation/id1753085848?i=1000686813951

03/28/2025

Couples struggle to communicate their needs—not because they don’t love each other, but because they were never shown how. 🫨

There’s no blueprint. No role models. No songs 🎼 or movies 🎞️ teaching us how to express our needs fearlessly and actually be heard.

That’s why in my work, I don’t just talk about communication—I demonstrate it. Michael and I show couples how to bring up one thing at a time, clear the air, and create agreements that actually last.

I’m so thrilled to have been featured on Whitney McDuff’s Speak Up, Stand Out, and Change Lives podcast! Getting to share the work I love is truly one of the greatest joys of my life.

🎙️ Check out the episode and please leave a review – I’d love to hear what you think! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-happiness-and-breaking-taboos-a-conversation/id1753085848?i=1000686813951

03/26/2025

Nobody’s a mind reader!

If you’re feeling hurt, disconnected, or unsettled in your relationship, the next step isn’t just sitting with those feelings—it’s making a request.

✅ Need an apology? Ask for it.
✅ Need a behavior to stop? Say so.
✅ Need to feel more connected? Get specific. “Please look into my eyes and say that again.”

It takes courage to ask, and even more courage to accept the answer—because while you can express your needs, you can’t control the outcome.

Sometimes your partner can meet you there, and sometimes they can’t. The point isn’t to demand; it’s to create a space where honesty, respect, and mutual understanding can deepen your connection.

So, what’s one thing you need that you haven’t asked for yet?

Drop a 🥀 below if this resonates!

03/19/2025

Most of us were taught early on to act the part. We picked up on what society expected (what to think, how to feel, how to fit in), and we became the version of ourselves that got approval.

Pretending will never bring you real love.
It only keeps you further from it.

Because the moment we step into intimacy, what do we do? We keep pretending. We mold ourselves into what we think our partner wants, afraid that if we showed up as our true selves, they’d leave.

Yet deep down, all we want is to be fully seen, fully accepted, fully loved- exactly as we are.

So what if, instead of playing a role, you allowed yourself to be fully, unapologetically YOU? That’s where real intimacy begins. That’s where love becomes extraordinary. 💫

✨ How do you practice showing up as your true self in relationships? Let’s talk in the comments.

03/13/2025

😨 The fear of being undesirable as we age is real.

For women over 50, it can feel like we’ve become invisible. For men, especially those a little clumsy, introverted, or neurodivergent, they’re unfairly labeled as “creepy.”

I’ve seen it happen over and over in my courses- those over 50 are present, yet no one is approaching them unless they “look the part.”

⚡ Enough. It’s time to reclaim our visibility, our desire, and our right to be fully seen.

That’s why I started leading retreats and experiences designed to bring confidence, magnetism, and pleasure back to those who refuse to fade into the background. Because attraction doesn’t have an expiration date—it just needs the right space to flourish. 🌹

Stay tuned because I’m always creating new ways for those over 50 to rediscover their power, confidence, and desire. 💋

And if you’re ready to reclaim your desirability now, grab a copy of my book S*x & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age: https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-books.

Because attraction, intimacy, and pleasure don’t expire.

03/12/2025

I have an assignment for you… ✍️

Earlier, I gave my apprentice cohort this exact exercise—to pause and reflect on what really matters. Now, I’m passing it on to you.

Take a moment and ask yourself:
💕 What truly matters to you about the work you’re doing in the world?
💕 What impact do you want to have?
💕 What change do you want to create?
💕 What drives you forward in your work, your relationships, your life?

Take five minutes and write down what comes up. Reflect on it privately, or if you feel called, share in the comments. Most importantly, take a moment to connect with your purpose.

While they were writing, I did the same. What poured out of me reminded me why I do this work:

✨ People becoming empowered, free, and sovereign— breaking free from the shackles of colonization
✨ People improving communication, asking for what they want, and creating relationships built on deep, intentional love.
✨ People experiencing bliss, ecstasy, and infinite joy—not just in intimacy, but in life itself.
✨ People embracing their creativity, stepping into their purpose, and designing lives they love.
✨ People healing, growing, and becoming more authentic, more vulnerable, and more alive.
✨ People unlocking their creative expression—writing books, painting, presenting workshops, practicing Latihan across the world.

These are the reasons people are drawn to my work.

Now, it’s your turn. What matters to you? ⬇️Drop it in the comments or reflect on it privately—but most importantly, take a moment to connect with your purpose.

03/10/2025

🥀 Couples don’t know how to touch each other. Not because they don’t want to, but because no one ever taught them how.

On The S*x Reimagined Podcast, I joined Leah Alchin Piper and Dr. Willow Brown to discuss the missing pieces in modern relationships—why so many couples lose passion, how touch can be transformed into a conscious practice, and what it really takes to sustain deep intimacy.

We assume intimacy is instinctual, that passion should “just happen.” But a real, lasting connection is a skill that can be learned, refined, and deepened.

That’s exactly what Michael and I teach at The Extraordinary Lovers Experience.

💫 Touch is about attunement—learning to map your partner’s body, listen with your hands, and read the unspoken language of energy and desire.

We’re inviting you to experience this firsthand. Join us for one of our upcoming Extraordinary Lovers couples retreats:

📍 May 1-4 | Boulder, CO
📍 May 28- June 3 | Greece

This is your chance to rewrite the trajectory of your relationship. 💞

🎧 Catch my full conversation with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown on The S*x Reimagined Podcast here: https://youtu.be/wGw2RrvF2Wc

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03/05/2025

Ever feel like no matter what you say, your partner just shuts down?

You’re not alone. The way we express our emotions and needs makes all the difference between creating connection or pushing each other away.

When we lead with blame—
❌ “You never listen.”
❌ “You don’t care about my feelings.”
❌ “You’re always so distant.”

It only builds walls. Nobody wants to feel attacked.

Using "I" statements helps you to keep the focus on your own experience rather than turning your partner into the problem.
✅ “I feel unheard when I share my thoughts.”
✅ “I want to feel closer to you.”
✅ “I feel overwhelmed and could use more support.”

When we shift from accusation to self-awareness, we create an opening for trust, understanding, and deeper intimacy.

These small shifts change everything. The next time you feel frustrated, take a breath and try reframing your words. See how your partner responds when they feel invited into the conversation instead of blamed.

🔖 Save this for later!

💬 Which of these shifts feels most impactful in your conversations? Tell me in the comments!

03/03/2025

Love each other but lost the spark? Arguing nonstop? Feeling more like roommates than lovers?

Love isn’t the problem, stagnation is.

So many couples find themselves drifting into routine, unknowingly neutralizing the magnetic pull between each other.

Passion thrives on contrast, tension, and intention. It isn’t gone forever, it’s just buried under habit.

❤️‍🔥 Want to rekindle that spark? Try these simple but radical shifts to bring passion back into your relationship! ❤️‍🔥

The science backs it up, desire needs polarity. And the good news? It’s never too late to bring it back.

Let’s break out of autopilot and into something extraordinary.

What’s one shift you’ve made (or are willing to try) to reignite passion in your relationship? Drop it in the comments! ⬇️