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Sex and Happiness This page is the portal to Your personal S*x & Happiness. It is a place to rediscover your true self!

Love rarely ends in one blow. It wears down in three quiet stages, and most of us only notice the last one.First comes r...
10/13/2026

Love rarely ends in one blow. It wears down in three quiet stages, and most of us only notice the last one.

First comes resentment: a hurt that never got said out loud. Then resistance: you pull back a little and give a little less. Then revenge: the sharp tone, the withheld touch, the silence that lasts a beat too long.

Nobody in that story is a bad person. It's what unspoken hurt does, in marriages, in dating, and in the private conversation you have with yourself. The pattern can be interrupted at any stage, and the earlier you catch it, the gentler the way back.

Laurie and I teach exactly how to do that. Clare came to the Extraordinary Lovers Experience as a single, and here's what she shared afterward: "ELE gave me tools I'll use everywhere. Not just in relationship, but in how I live fully."

We're teaching it live in Phoenix, November 5 to 8, for couples and singles. We keep the room small on purpose.

If one of those stages sounded familiar, comment DRIFT and I'll send you the details.

The women I've watched embrace their s*xuality most deeply during perimenopause and menopause have studied some form of ...
10/12/2026

The women I've watched embrace their s*xuality most deeply during perimenopause and menopause have studied some form of ta**ra.

They've learned exactly what I had to learn myself, that the key to menopause is surrendering into the unknown and releasing the need to control what was happening.

That surrender is the missing piece to the practice and learning how to listen to your body instead of trying to fight it.

If there's a woman in your life who needs to hear this, send it to her.

Some people are attractive and do nothing for you. Then there's the person who pulls you in with a force you can't expla...
10/09/2026

Some people are attractive and do nothing for you. Then there's the person who pulls you in with a force you can't explain.

That kind of magnetism usually means you two have real work to do together, issues that might have been following you for years.

You'll be floating along thinking this is the best relationship of your life, and then out of nowhere, something gets triggered. Suddenly you're drowning in a past that has nothing to do with the person you're with.

That's the moment you've hit one of your own sleeping demons, and the relationship is never quite the same after that.

Some couples fight constantly, others go silent and purposely dodge, both changing nothing. People numb out with w**e, disappear into the kids, bury themselves in work, or start the conversation and just trail off awkwardly.

I wrote all about this in my book, S3x & Happiness: The Ta***ic Laws of !ntimacy, and if you're ready to look at your own patterns, start here:
https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-books

10/08/2026

That instant chemistry, the butterflies, it's so often trauma pulling you toward familiarity, and it feels electric because your nervous system recognizes it.

I've felt that pull when it's fast, even explosive… and inevitably gone in a flash.

What lasts has everything to do with aligned values and knowing what you need from someone else while loving yourself at the same time.

When have you mixed up familiarity with love?

Dr. Stacy

It’s called andropause, and just like women, men experience a slow hormonal shift. Testosterone drops gradually over yea...
10/08/2026

It’s called andropause, and just like women, men experience a slow hormonal shift.

Testosterone drops gradually over years, and with it, brings mood changes, low energy, and less des!re.

If you're a woman experiencing perimenopause and your partner is somewhere in his own andropause, you've got two shifting nervous systems and sets of hormones happening in the same house.

Maybe it's time we extend to men the same grace we're asking for ourselves.

Have you ever heard of andropause before?

Nobody decides to drift. It happens one ordinary evening at a time.You've been telling yourself it's just a busy season....
10/07/2026

Nobody decides to drift. It happens one ordinary evening at a time.

You've been telling yourself it's just a busy season. The work is demanding, the calendar is full, and the two of you are still kind, still loyal, still in love. Nothing is wrong, exactly. It's just quieter than it used to be.

Drift is almost never one big fight. It's a long run of small moments where you meant to turn toward each other and the day got there first. Here's the hopeful part: if small moments built the distance, small moments can close it, once you know how.

We had a couple come to one of our experiences after forty years of marriage. Christine wrote to us afterward: "We were drifting apart. 40 years married... I knew that we were on the right road immediately."

From November 5 to 8 in Phoenix, Laurie and I are teaching four days on how to fall in love, how to stay in love, and how to build a legacy of love that lasts a lifetime. We keep the room small on purpose.

Picture the two of you walking out on November 8. What's the first evening at home going to feel like?

Claim your seat: phoenix.extraordinarylovers.com
Doors close Friday, October 30.

10/07/2026

I started explaining ta**ra as transformation through pl3asure.

That's when people finally got it.

It's an inward journey first, always, and only once you've met yourself there does anything outward even matter. 🌀

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I’m looking for people who feel called to go deeper into this work. Part of it is to learn more about intimacy, s3x, rel...
10/03/2026

I’m looking for people who feel called to go deeper into this work. Part of it is to learn more about intimacy, s3x, relationships, and transformation, but a bigger lens is to learn how to stand in front of others and facilitate.

You do not need to be a coach or have a background in s3xuality.

You’ll study, practice, facilitate, and you’ll be coached. By the end, you’ll have designed and led your own Capstone Project.

I don't say yes to everyone who applies. This program is intimate, and I need to know you're the right fit before I bring you into that room with me.

I had some unexpected space in my October calendar, so I decided to open a few more interview slots.

If you missed the original application window, here’s another chance. ❤️

There’s even more information once you click through to the application page: https://lauriehandlers.com/shapprentice

BOULDER, COLORADO — I’M COMING TO YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME!Saturday, October 10, I’m doing a special one-night appearance:...
09/29/2026

BOULDER, COLORADO — I’M COMING TO YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME!

Saturday, October 10, I’m doing a special one-night appearance:

S*X & HAPPINESS: IT GETS BETTER WITH AGE

Here’s what I'll be talking with you about:

Getting older without getting old.

I’m 78. I have no intention of disappearing, becoming irrelevant, giving up my s*xuality, or buying into the idea that my s*xiest years are behind me.

In fact, I’m totally involved in aging juicily.

I’ve spent years working with people over 50, and I’ve watched people who thought their s*xy years were over discover just how WRONG they were.

S*xy does not have an expiration date.

Neither does curiosity, pleasure, desirability.
Neither does your capacity to reinvent yourself.

We’re going to talk about bodies, s*x, pleasure, movement, self-talk, breaking routines, trying new things, biohacking, and some of the cultural bu****it we’ve been fed about aging.

Mostly, we’re going to talk about ALIVENESS.

And I’ll share some of my own secrets for staying vital, current, curious, s*xual, humorous, and fully engaged with life.

Boulder, CO
Sat, Oct 10
7–10pm
$69 — OF COURSE IT IS.

And your $69 includes a copy of my book, S*x & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age.

This is my first time ever in Boulder. Come see me. Bring your friends.

Space is limited.

Registration info in the comments

There is beauty on the other side. Real life, power, sensual energy, eros, and it doesn’t disappear because we went arou...
09/26/2026

There is beauty on the other side.

Real life, power, sensual energy, eros, and it doesn’t disappear because we went around the sun another time.

For those of you moving through menopause wanting to keep exploring des!re and pl3asur3, go for it. This chapter brings a new frequency.

If this is landing, come find your people in Tulum. This February's Living in 3cstasy retreat is designed specifically for people over 50, and it's exactly the room I wish existed for me.

https://lauriehandlers.com/ecstasy

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