12/08/2023
What we want our daughters to know about friendship:
1. Not everyone is going to like you. Itās okay. (I know it wonāt always feel like thatās true, but I promise it is).
2. Not everyone is going to invite you. Thatās okay too.
3. Youāll never regret kindness. (Never ever).
4. If you constantly have to tiptoe around them, theyāre not your people.
5. You get to choose them, so choose the ones who are choosing you back.
6. Have high standards when it comes to friends, but donāt be unrealistic. Theyāre going to mess up, so are you. Grace is essential.
7. Be yourself. Let other people be themselves right back.
8. You canāt have friends if you donāt know how to be a friend. Focus on being the best friend you possibly can.
9. Donāt wait. Youāre allowed to do the inviting and the reaching out too.
10. Listen.
11. If you want them to be there for the big stuff, youāre gonna have to be there for each other in the small stuff too.
12. Donāt knowingly leave people out. It doesnāt feel good.
13. Gossip is garbage.
14. Drama is too. Stay above the fray, and feel free to walk away.
15. You canāt be best friends with everyone. But you can notice everyone. You can smile at everyone. You can say hello to everyone. You can be good to everyone and make sure people feel seen.
16. Itās better to be genuinely loved by a few than fake loved by a few thousand.
17. Popularity for the sake of popularity is pointless.
18. Your worth will never come from others. You have to learn to accept yourself if you want others to accept you.
19. Give more than you take, but donāt be anyoneās doormat. Your momma didnāt raise you right so you could be walked all over.
20. Your friends should be good to you, but they should also be good to other people. If theyāre nice to you and then turn around and talk smack about others, theyāre not nice.
21. Be loyal. Stick up for your friends whether theyāre around or arenāt.
22. Friends arenāt toys to be discarded when you get bored. Deep friendships take time and commitment.
22. Show up for your friends even if they didnāt ask you to. If theyāre going through something hard check on them, sit with them, and bring them flowers. Be present, even if it feels awkward.
23. If Mama donāt like them, thereās probably a good reason.
24.Friendship is one of the most important things you can invest in in life. Make the time.
25. If you get hurt, Iām always here for a hug, and to talk, Iāve been there. Give yourself time and grace to heal, but listen my love, donāt close yourself up and donāt shut yourself away. Opening up your heart again is worth the risk.
I love you to the moon and back,
Love,
Mama
Written by Amy & Jess
