06/09/2026
I have a rule I try to teach my daughter.
Do not inform your boss that you will be taking the afternoon off as a question. Say, "For your information, I will be taking the afternoon off." Then let the sentence stand.
It sounds small, but it is not.
I think a lot of women were raised to phrase their own decisions as questions.
Would it be okay if. Do you think I could? I am sorry to ask, but.
Somewhere along the way, asking and deciding got tangled together, and a lot of us never noticed the difference.
Here is what I actually believe about permission:
You are never going to get it, because there is no one handing it out. The only version of it that exists is the one you give yourself.
Take the trip. Take the afternoon. Stop waiting for a yes that was never coming from anyone but you.
Where in your life have you been asking permission for something that was already yours to decide?
♻️ Repost this for a woman still phrasing her own life as a question.
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